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Domestic abuse help and advice

If you're in immediate danger you should always call 999

 Silent Solution

 If speaking or making a sound would put you in danger and you need immediate help, call 999 and stay on the line, then press 55 when prompted, and the call will be transferred to the police who will know it is an emergency call.

Help and advice if you or someone you know is the victim of domestic abuse.

If you are being abused, threatened, harassed or physically or sexually assaulted by your partner, former partner or someone who is or has been close to you, there are a number of things you can do.

Your abuser may blame you and other things like being drunk, pressure of work, unemployment and minimise or deny what they are doing. These things can put a strain on a relationship but are not a cause of abuse.

Abuse in teenage relationships is also not normal or acceptable.

Get help

Don't keep what is happening to you a secret. You have nothing to be ashamed of, and the longer the abuse goes on, the harder it gets to take some action.

Talk to someone you trust or contact an organisation for support:

Don't feel alone

Research shows that 1 in 4 women have been in an abusive relationship at some time in their lives; men can also be abused in a similar way. It can happen to any-one at any time of their lives regardless of age, race, gender, sexuality, disability, wealth, income, lifestyle or where you live.

Don't remain isolated

Your abuser may be trying to control you physically as well as emotionally in many ways. They may be controlling finances and may be stopping you going out, or making it awkward for you to see family and friends. All these are types of abuse that can keep you locked in the relationship. 

Accept you are not to blame

You are not responsible for the abuse although the person abusing you may be telling you, or you may feel, it's your fault. You may have tried changing what you do, say and wear to try to pacify and not to antagonise the situation. You may have already noticed that whatever you do makes little difference to the way your abuser reacts and despite your efforts you cannot change their behaviour.

Keep yourself safe

Minimising what is happening can put you (and your children) at risk. It's not easy to accept that a loved one can act in this way and you may be trying to make the relationship work. Your abuser may apologise and persuade you that it will not happen again but any sort of abuse is likely to get worse; violence rarely happens only once and will get more and more serious as time goes on.

Only leave when it is safe to do so

You may be considering leaving or may have left before and returned for emotional or practical reasons, this is not unusual. Most people try to get help or leave a number of times before getting the help that's right for them. If you are thinking of leaving making a plan can help you do this as safely as possible.

Domestic abuse and sexual violence | Suffolk County Council

Page updated 8/3/2021

​Libraries launched as safe spaces for anyone suffering domestic abuse

A campaign has been launched to ensure that anyone affected by domestic abuse in Suffolk knows the library is a safe space.

Suffolk Libraries has been working with Suffolk County Council to ensure library staff know how to respond if someone who is suffering from domestic abuse asks for help.

The Suffolk Domestic Abuse Champions Network has provided training for library staff with some also becoming domestic abuse champions.

The training provides people with an understanding of domestic abuse, how to recognise the signs and how to respond if anyone needs help. The aim of offering Suffolk Libraries as safe spaces is that anyone, whether they are experiencing domestic abuse themselves, or if they’re worried about someone else, can speak to someone in the library in confidence and be referred to the organisations who can support them.

A visit to the library may offer someone the chance to get away from their abuser and so provide an ideal opportunity to speak to someone.

Suffolk Libraries

Last updated: 15/06/2021

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