The following information could help if your child has lost a loved one or if a loved one is dying.
If your child has a loved one who's dying
If a child has a loved one who is going to die, they can benefit from special support.
Counselling before the loved one dies
Sarah Smith, bereavement counsellor at London's Trinity Hospice, says: "Hospices offer pre-bereavement care to help patients and their family in the run-up to the end of life.
"We especially encourage this for children because children's stress levels are at their highest before bereavement because of fear and the unknown."
Pre-bereavement counselling gives the child a chance to think and talk about their feelings and share their worries.
Making a memory box with the child
If you're a parent and you know you're going to die, Sarah suggests thinking about making a memory box to give to your child, or making one together.
This is a box containing things that remind you both of your time together. It can provide an important link between you and your child once you've gone.
Macmillan Cancer Support has information about making a memory box.
If a child has lost a loved one
Talk about the person who has died
During bereavement, it can help a child to talk about the person who has died, whether it was a grandparent, parent, brother, sister or friend.
"Sharing and talking about emotions and about the person is important, especially for children," says Sarah.
"If they have lost a loved one, it's important to have someone with whom they can talk about that person. It could be through photos, games, memory boxes or stories."
There are also bereavement charities that offer helplines, email support, and online communities and message boards for children.
- Child Bereavement UK - 0800 028 8840 Monday to Friday, 9am to 5pm, or email firstname.lastname@example.org
- Hope Again is a website for young people run by The Cruse Bereavement Care Charity. Young people as well as adults can contact their helpline on 0808 808 1677. Monday to Friday, 9.30am to 5pm, or email email@example.com
- Grief Encounters support bereaved children and their families and they also provide a helpline 020 8371 8455.
- Winston's Wish - 0808 802 0021 Monday to Friday, 9am to 5pm.
Make a memory box
If the person who has died didn't leave a memory box, Sarah suggests making one with your child.
It can include:
- shells collected on the beach
- memories written on a card
- anything that makes the child feel connected to that person
Article provided by NHS Choices
Further advice and information
Find out more about children and bereavement on the Childhood Bereavement Network.
The MindEd - for families website has useful advice and resources for parents to help a child cope with death and loss, including the loss of pets.
Child Bereavement UK has a range of information sheets about children and bereavement, including how children grieve and children's understanding of death at different ages.
The Royal College of Psychiatrists website also has information and advice about ‘Death in the family – helping children and adolescents cope.
Videos: Gone - coping with death – By Newsround (a bit dated) but it has some really good advice for primary school aged children, told by children who have lost a grandparent, parent or sibling.
If your child needs emotional wellbeing support to help them cope, please contact the Suffolk Children and Young People's Emotional Wellbeing Hub to get advice or make a referral.
The Emotional Wellbeing Hub supports the mental health and wellbeing of all children and young people in East and West Suffolk, aged between 0-25 years.