This page provides help and advice if you or someone you know is a victim of domestic abuse.
Overview of what an abusive relationship is
An abusive relationship can include being:
- threatened with violence - you are frightened of your partner.
- told what to wear
- told who to see and speak to
- told where you can go
- constantly criticised and put down
It is also abuse if any form of social media is being used to embarrass or threaten you.
Abuse is never OK. You can't blame abuse on:
- a sign of love or caring
- the way you behave
- the way you look
- what you wear
If you are in an abusive relationship it's not your fault, and you do not have to put up with it.
Protecting yourself and others from abuse
If you are being abused don't keep what is happening to you a secret. You have nothing to be ashamed of, and the longer the abuse goes on, the harder it gets to take some action.
Don't remain isolated - Your abuser may be trying to control you physically as well as emotionally in many ways. They may be controlling finances and may be stopping you going out, or making it awkward for you to see family and friends. All these are types of abuse that can keep you locked in the relationship.
You are not to blame - You are not responsible for the abuse although the person abusing you may be telling you, or you may feel, it's your fault. You may have tried changing what you do, say and wear, but despite your efforts you cannot change their behaviour.
Keep yourself safe - Your abuser may apologise and persuade you that it will not happen again but any sort of abuse is likely to get worse; violence rarely happens only once and will get more serious as time goes on.
Only leave when it is safe to do so - You may be considering leaving or may have left before and returned for emotional or practical reasons, this is not unusual. Most people try to get help or leave a number of times before getting the help that's right for them. If you are thinking of leaving making a plan can help you do this as safely as possible.
Report abuse of an adult or child, to the Multi-Agency Safeguarding Hub (MASH) and they also support people at risk of radicalisation.
Getting help and support
Call the Suffolk Domestic Abuse Helpline on 0800 977 5690 Freephone 24/7
- View other support services for abuse
If speaking or making a sound would put you in danger and you need immediate help, call 999 and stay on the line, then press 55 when prompted, and the call will be transferred to the police who will know it is an emergency call.
Abusive relationship support for young people
Young people in Suffolk can contact the Tope Line for support on 0808 168 1154 (9am - 9pm daily).
You can Text or Whatsapp the Tope Line on: 07375 296229
For more information Visit: tope.org.uk
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